Is Love Enough to Make a Relationship Last?

LOVE is not enough to make a relationship work but it is one of the most important factors that makes it work...Yes, I believe that all the other elements and aspects have to be considered for a relationship to last and this is what is ideal...but what is ideal is not what makes men happy sometimes. Why???

In relationships...especially in love, when one puts limits, boundaries, quantify and qualify what he feels, then love here becomes conditional. So, it is the same as saying..."I will love you if"..."I will love you but"...there are conditions set...and if these expectations and conditions are not met, then we become disappointed. So, we are hurt, because we have set rules...set conditions...This definitely will NOT make us happy at all, because there is no spontaneity to what we feel.

Why NOT let love flow naturally? Just honor what we feel... not rationalize. Love should have no limits nor bounds...The very reason why we are not supposed to answer the question, "How much do you love me?" we can only answer the question, "Do you love me?"

I have known and have witnessed relationships that have lasted for a lifetime just because of love. People in the previous generation, especially those who are not schooled do not know anything about other aspects or factors to be considered....but why did their love for each other work for their relationship? Probably because they are so real and sincere to what they feeland maybe because their love for each other was enough to make their relationship work.

Love may not be enough to make a relationship work...but...it is possible. Pag nagmahal ka naman kasi...at kapag pareho kayong nagmamahalan...for as long as love is there...lahat naman ay posibleng tanggapin at gawin. Kaya nga nagtatagal pa ang pagsasama dahil me pagmamahalan pa. Kapag nawala na yun...di mo na magagawa pa ang mga bagay bagay ...you will not be happy na rin...at dun na nawawala ang lahat lahat pang factors like trust, respect, compatability, etc...

Haaaaayz...basta ang mahalaga po...we have experienced how to love and be loved. Let us treasure nalang the moments we have na me love pa...hehe. There are things we have to accept and endure sometimes because we have made a choice and a decision to love. What is important is we are happy with our decision.

Graduation...

I am actually staying late tonight because I will not be reporting for work tomorrow. So I have the luxury of time to blog again .

Yesss...finally Van2 is graduating tomorrow...CONGRATULATIONS!

Hmm... Van2 was able to make it?  After four years of struggle...he made it!   He is by the way, my youngest child.  So he has finished his secondary education...what an accomplishment on his part and our part as parents.  Come to think of it, with my four children, he is the last to finish High School. This means, I will no longer be sending a child in high school and will no longer have a graduation of a child in Secondary Education.

Speaking of graduation, last year, I made a speech for a niece because she was invited to give an inspirational talk before the graduates. I remember, I also wrote a speech of introduction for the Guest Speaker of a College in the Commencement Exercises. It was indeed a very challenging task because I need to make a research about the speaker's profile who is a bishop.

I used to write speeches for graduation like valedictory addresses, welcome remarks, etc. I love writing speeches  and teaching the person how to deliver the lines. I like the feeling when I see and hear the person speaking before an audience with my thoughts. Whoaaaa, you will really feel different as your words are uttered.  Whew!

Graduation is the time where I like to watch the facial expressions of the parents. It is the moment where you can really see on their faces joy as they watch their children march and get their diplomas. Some parents even cry when their children embrace them and as they express their words of gratitude.  This is what I like most during graduation, the part where the graduates will approach their parents and give their tokens of gratitude to them and their personally handwritten letter while a song is played...I like this scenario...hmmm...very personal and very touching.   On the part of the parents, they feel proud of their child.  on the other hand, graduating students feel happy because finally he or she has finished another level of education.

So graduation is here...Graduation is not the end though, but the beginning of a new life, new challenges and new journey.  It is just a phase in life where one will have to move on to what is next...to discover more what life offers...to explore and to embark into new challenges and responsibilities. Yes, in one's journey, it will not all be success because there will always be trials, failures  and mistakes encountered, but what is important is, one is able to accept and learn from these failures and mistakes and gain wisdom.

Well, tomorrow will be the BIG DAY for Giovanni. I wonder if he is excited...I can feel that he is, although he does not really show it. 

To all the graduates, CONGRATULATIONS!

3 Days in Vietnam...

Hmmm...I miss writing...need to do this because of a wonderful travel I had in Vietnam.

I was actually given a b-day present by Ate Lora, one of my friends since she could not make it because of some personal reasons. A travel to Vietnam, a group tour.

Of course, there was excitement on my part and I was so happy for this, though I also have to consider the expenses...I did not expect that my husband will allow me. Look, I am traveling to Japan on January to renew my visa, so I will be spending money for this, so I never thought that I will make it...but to my surprise, my hubby said YES! Yeheyyy....

So, my mind was set for Vietnam...I tried to accomplish all the reports in my office before I left...Finally, the day came...wow...exciting!